Puzzled

So out of no where, I finally see someone on a website that has potential to be someone I can date without considering it torture.  There is always a catch,we live about an hour away from each other.  So for now we can split the distance and this will make it easy to not be on top of each other...

But I have discovered something that I'm a little puzzled by...

As I have been telling a few friends of mine why I have been having trouble finding someone to date I am somehow offending them I think???  No one is saying I am but I hear a change in their tone when they start suddenly talking about their man.

See here is my "demand" that seem to upset my friends:
I want a guy that at least takes care of himself.  He doesn't have to be perfect or muscle bound BUT I am working hard myself on be fit and I have found that it is easier when you both want that. 
Now everyone understand these things:
Both need to want kids...
Both need to want to save money...
Both need to like to travel...

So why am I offending people when I say.... "I want"  I'm not saying everyone should want.

See my ex used to always give me reasons why I didn't need to work out and on those days when I needed a little encouragement he did the opposite.  The guy I'm dating now is very fit and encourages me to do what I need to do to reach my goal.

I have found that lost memory of being insanely attracted to your man.   LOL.
Whats wrong with wanting that still.

I guess people think I'm judging them if they don't want the same things, but again we were talking about what I want.  I am getting frustrated that I have to deal with other peoples insecurities when I'm talking about myself!!

Well I guess I might have to do the tough love thing and point this out to them soon....